As a whole, we are an armored, injured, fragile and simultaneously strong and courageous globe. As a result, there is a great deal of individual healing required for more successful intimate relationships. In the end you will receive what you need. Pay attention to the sweet signs of change and remember that change is courage for everyone. Applaud and appreciate changes in yourself and your partner.
When you speak from divine listening your partner will hear you. It may take a bit of time, but you will be heard and positive change will occur. Being in love is one of the most pleasurable experiences we deserve to have and deepen sensual, gentle, nurturing relationships. The most accelerated way to do that is by deepening our Self-love. Embrace yourself first and watch your partner shift.
It is always easy to dissect our partner and tell them what they need to do different; to control them. It is more difficult to dissect our Self, heal, and change our behavior. We are not here to call others on there stuff. We are here to call our Self on our stuff. As we deepen our awareness we organically create change in others without a single word, thought, or want. Allowing miracles and surprises to come our way by shifting ourselves and doing it with no agenda. Locate an authentic issue of yours and go to your partner and without ego take responsibility and commit to change. That is power. Live amazing communication and experience a new layer of love.
It is so painful to not be able to blame someone else for your circumstance even when it seems that they expertly orchestrated it from their own discontent.
There are times when a relationship is over and only you will know when that time is. You can discuss at length with others. And naturally with professionals who will ask you the right questions for you to hear yourself, however, you and only you will know when it is time to move in a completely different direction. As your awareness grows, it takes time to transform disconnection to connection. For those who have partners who sadly cannot shift into openness to heal and you know it is time to let go. Trust yourself and let go without resentment and with gratitude for the learning. There is no one that we cannot learn from and there are some who are not ready to authentically heal. All we can do is to continue to heal ourselves in the hope that our consistent evolving will allow them to heal one day. The advanced class is when you welcome corrections from your partner. Our partners do tend to hold poignant information about who we are, who we are not, and who we can be. If you are extra brave and breathe in your sense of Self, ask. Sit with patience, openness, and love. Listen and ask for time to absorb and process to be clear that it is in fact a right correction. The warning here is some of us only listen to what others think of us and tell us to do. This is different. This is actively embracing shadow and integrating into vastness. If you feel it to be an authentic issue that is worthy of change for you and your partner, then go for it and experience the satisfaction that comes with being spirit.
Okay so here's how to allow it to be easier. Schedule times to listen and actually listen. Don't control or discount what the other is feeling. Give. Give space for your partner to be listened to and love you. Perfection isn't necessarily getting along perfectly in every moment. To me perfection is that moment when you actually hear each other and you can give more of yourself by allowing the imperfection. This is lifelong learning. Enjoy it and remember to embrace light and create time with each other for laughter and humility.
Thank you to my husband who has taught me how much I love running away and how good it feels when I choose to come back.
Ria Ray is a spiritual advisor, an accomplished artist, Mother and a loving wife/partner. She is also the founder of Mantra Ties. |
