The Invitation

It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living, I want to know what you ache for, and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing.

It doesn’t interest me how old you are. I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love, for your dreams, for the adventure of being alive.

It doesn’t interest me what planets are squaring with your moon. Read more

Intimacy and Communication

Intimacy is the art of keeping one’s heart authentically open. Intimacy within relationships allows us to deepen the intimacy within our Self. Intimacy within our Self creates positive, soulful, and inventive relationships with the world.

Our deepest learning, frightening realizations and authentic measurement of our evolution lives inside of romantic relationships. Read more

Only a Person Who Risks is Free

Only a person who risks is free.

To laugh is to risk appearing the fool.

To weep is to risk appearing sentimental.

To reach out for another is risk involvement.

To expose feelings is to risk exposing your true self. Read more

Sex and the Dual Income Couple

written by kyle roderick

Does the daily work grind for two-income couples (also known as Dincs) negatively impact the frequency or quality of their sex life? In other words, does sex stink for dincs?

Janet Hyde, a University of Wisconsin Madison psychology professor, surveyed more than 500 couples for her study, which was reported in the Journal of Family Psychology. Read more

Lighting Up the Dark Times

written by kyle roderick

mind/body strategies for beating depression
Despite a continually expanding body of research into depression and its potential treatments, many couples experience unnecessary suffering while trying to maintain relationships amidst depression. Marriages in which one partner has untreated depression are nine times more likely than others to end in divorce. The number one reason couples seek couples therapy is because of a sexual problem. In half of these cases, the problem can be traced to depression in one of them. It doesn’t have to be this way.While bliss is our birthright, it’s also true that most of us, and hence our relationships, crawl through sadness and often depression at least once in a lifetime. Read more

Intimacy

written by ria ray

As a whole, we are an armored, injured, fragile and simultaneously strong and courageous globe. As a result, there is a great deal of individual healing required for more successful intimate relationships. In the end you will receive what you need. Pay attention to the sweet signs of change and remember that change is courage for everyone. Applaud and appreciate changes in yourself and your partner. Read more

How to Soothe Emotional Bruising

A breakthrough brain scan study of people who experienced rejection, insults, put-downs and other social snubs has found that verbal attacks can cause physical pain similar to the feeling of getting kicked in the stomach (Science, vol.302, no.5643). In other words, emotional pain is not all in your brain: it’s in your organs, it affects your heartbeat, your nervous system, your entire being.

Using functional magnetic imaging, researchers at the University of California Los Angeles (UCLA) examined volunteers’ brain activity after they experienced various snubs. Read more

How Our Hearts Trade Love

written by kyle roderick

Did you know that your heart generates the strongest electromagnetic field produced by the body, one that is sixty times higher in amplitude than the field of the brain? Your ten-ounce heart also emits an energy field five thousand times stronger than your brain’s, and this force can be measured more than ten feet from your body.

Using electrocardiograms (ECG) and electroencephelograms (EEG) to measure cardiac energy and track cardiac energy trades, researchers at the Institute of HeartMath in Boulder Creek, CA. have confirmed what lovers have felt in their hearts for ages– that an exchange of feeling occurs when caring people touch, or are within close proximity to one another. Read more

Creating Emotional Flow

To find peace, to find our inner calm and be at one with the world, we must learn to recognize, accept and let go of our emotions. This is a tricky bit of business as typically the ego steadfastly refuses to cooperate.

Expressing our feelings can be a scary, nearly paralyzing challenge. Resistance to recognizing and admitting our emotions is rooted in fear. Fear of rejection, of being ridiculed, of being judged; fear of any reciprocal emotion outside of our zone of comfort; creates a stern defense that we often don’t know we are deploying. Read more

Aphrodisiac Herbs and Foods

written by kyle roderick

aphrodisiac herbs and foods
While it’s clear that love helps make the world go round, what role do so-called aphrodisiacs play in our amorous adventures? Despite thousands of years of enthusiastic use in numerous cultures, the U.S. Food and Drug Administration (FDA) maintains that the effects of aphrodisiacs are based on legend rather than fact. Read more